Help Yourself ;)
There comes a moment in life when you must stop second guessing yourself and stop running around asking everyone else what is best for you!! You know what is best for you. You must trust your own personal guidance system! When you ask others for advice in nearly every case they will tell you what you can do that will be most beneficial to them. You need to ask yourself what you must do that will be most beneficial to you! This is not selfish because you can never help anyone out by changing yourself to do what they believe will make them happy. If others need you to behave a certain way in order for them to be happy, they are not happy! They are not trusting their own personal guidance system and have no business attempting to be yours! When you do what makes you happy, when you do what brings you the absolute most joy, you will not only best help yourself, you will also help other people. Being your best self causes those around you to desire to be their best self!
You do people a favor when you follow your bliss over their advice!
Your bliss, your desire, your dream is the one and only thing you came here to do. You do what you came here to do and you and every single person who comes in contact with you benefits! It is difficult to explain but sometimes to follow your heart you must "let others down". But guess what when you attempt to please someone by being any less than your true self, you are not doing that person any favors! You let someone else down more by changing yourself to be what you think they need, than by actually being you. Perhaps you are carrying someone's weight at work, or living up to another's standards (a mate, a friend, a parent, a boss) but you have to repeatedly do things that make you unhappy to please this person. Do you realize by allowing them to depend upon your unhappiness to make them happy you are standing between them and their own ability to step up and do what it takes to make themselves happy!!! No one is truly happy when they depend upon another to create their bliss! No one is truly happy while depending upon another to suffer in any way for their sake. We are happier when we take responsibility for our own joy, our own bliss, our own dream. Take responsibility for your own bliss and allow others instead of depending upon you for their "happiness" to discover the empowerment of creating their own joy! (Ultimately whether they find their own bliss or not is not really your problem, you are not responsible for anyone's happiness but your own :). They'll be okay, they came here for a purpose too and they won't find it while they are letting you do all their dirty work ;).)
When we trust our heart and do what we long for most, desire most, hope for most, we help ourselves and everyone else.
Thank you all for reading and your support! I am a people pleaser through and through, and in order to follow my dream of being a writer I have to stop worrying about pleasing the people around me and I have to sit down and finish my book. Many people had become dependent on me over the past year, and it's my own damn fault trying to make everyone happy but myself. Now to do the one thing I know in my heart that I came to this earth to do I have had to let some people down and maybe more still!!! I was born saying yes to everyone, it is taking everything in me to say no, but I must do what brings me joy and what brings me joy is inspiring others. If I am so busy killing myself to please a very small circle, a very large circle may never receive the encouragement I came to this earth to give. Please send positive thoughts my way all of you. No one pays me to stay up all night writing a book, or to stay up all day taking care of my kids. I'm scared but so damn determined :). Love you all! Charity
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